Today is a Friday and I feel stressed.
It's the weekend yet still I feel stressed in these strange times and today it started from children's school work pressures.
I've recognised that it's not helping that I'm actually labelling it as stress, because that doesn't really help me understand what the emotion that I am feeling is.
Today I have been trying to do some work, and I've also got my eldest asking for help with maths - stressful!
But it's not stress - it is frustration.
It's frustration, and the fact that I'm starting to label my stress with an actual emotion means I'm in a much better place to deal with it. I realised that today. I wanted to share that because maybe some other people are going through something quite similar, but it's frustration and it comes back down to those primary emotions, and the primary emotion of frustration is anger.
I know it's crazy, but it is. It's from a lack of control. I was frustrated, I didn't know the answer and I just felt like I'd lost control and my reaction didn't help at all.
I've come back and sat at my desk to do some work, and that same frustration is there. I feel like I'm behind, thinking of those expectations I put on myself of what I need to achieve in a day, and when I feel like I'm not going to achieve those things, then that can make me feel pretty anxious.
I need to remind to myself that we are in a completely different world at the moment, we've got to be really careful in terms of what we are doing to ourselves psychologically, and emotionally, because at the moment our wellbeing is so important. We need to remember that we are doing the best we can, and that's all we can do.
So focus, and this is a message to myself:
Focus on what is in your control and let go of all the other stuff. Focus on what's in your control and be realistic in what it is that you want to achieve in the time frame that you've got.